Helping or just habit?
About 6-7 years ago, I was diving into this making myself better stuff. I was in a place where I beat myself up constantly, was never happy with myself, and was just generally miserable. Although I didn't really understand the extent to which I was miserable. When asked I would say I was happy, and I did have moments. At the time I was looking for help. I came across a guru and the things he said made sense. He said; you have to talk nicely to yourself, self-care is not hot baths and pedicures, it's taking care of your mind and your body; it's doing things that may not seem like self-care but in the end are. One of the things he highly promoted was meditation. His whole mantra boiled down to, if you don't have control of your mind, your thoughts, your actions, you will never truly find/get the things you want. It made a lot of sense, a whole lot more than the rest of the world saying do nice things for yourself, speak affirmations every day, blah, blah, blah. So for a