Step Away From the Cake

 They left this afternoon. Thank God!!!! No, honestly it was a great weekend. I love my step-son and my sister-in-law is awesome. It was interesting though, some things came up that I wasn't sure would ever be addressed. Like how hard their family is on people. Hmmm.... They have never really accepted me into the family and we've been married 32 years. They still call his ex their sister-in-law even though we have been married and together for longer than they ever were. It's absurd. They pass judgements like they are all superior and shit when they aren't. Two of them are widowed and now dating and sleeping with them without being married - the horror!!!!  Anyway, as I said in my last post, this weekend gave me a lot of opportunity to work on my mindfulness and my responses to things and it's all good. It is what it is. They have lost a lot of time with their brother because of their judgements and that is their loss. I just feel sorry for my husband because he lov

 So we have some visiting family over. My step-son, my sister-in-law and her boyfriend or whatever you want to call him (even she doesn't really know what to call him). I'm glad they are here for my husband's sake. He truly loves his family and the relationship has been bumpy through the years. So I have no problem with them being here and staying at the house. It is only for a few days and it makes him so happy that it is truly worth it. BUT........... Yesterday was a hang out at the house pool day. We invited over some friends and barbequed. Oh, I guess I should mention that it was father's day too. So I was not drinking at all, not even one. But everyone else was. A. Lot. It was fascinating to watch people get drunk (well, it was fascinating for a while, then it became absurd). The one thing that I noticed were the lies. OMG!!!! One of our friends was telling my sister-in-law how her feelings changed when her son said he wanted kids. Really? We've had numerous co